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5 days, 1 hour ago by Hannah&joe	Every time we stop in the car for anything ie traffic lights, roundabouts or heavy traffic our son screams and screams. This is something he has done from a very young age he is now 30 months old. We have tried distracting him with toys and sitting his seat on different sides if the car but it makes no difference. Even when going round a safari park and I had him on my lap in the back seat he still screamed. He has 4 limb motor syndrome cerebal palsy. And does see someone from the visual impairment team but they are happy with his vision at the moment. It does make any journey short or long very difficult so we would appreciate any ideas Thanks
4 days, 3 hours ago by natashailg	i would gues sit is a bou communication - does he know where you going and think you stopping too soon? my son would freak out if we went the "wrong way" to school etc. now his undersanding and communciation is better we dont get this - eg he can ask where we going etc what is his communication like (understanding/expressive) does he get a schedule/story board of where you are heading so he can understand the stop is not for getting out? is it about change in movement? he likes the movement hates it to stop? scared of something?
3 days, 5 hours ago by Hannah&joe	I think it's about the movement as he does the same type of thing when he's in his buggy. His communication skills aren't great. We do know what he wants and doesn't want. But I dont think he'd understand if I told him our route and what was going to happen. I do always tell him where we are going ie nannies, group or shopping.
2 days, 22 hours ago by natashailg	hmmm needs behavioural approach... sensitise him to movment starting and stopping on a da y you dont need to go anywhere. address the movement starting and stoppping. eg in park can he go on a swing do they have SN equipment? start movment then stop fo a second. before he screams, move again. grdually increase time you stop for. or go for a start and stop walk in buggy. walk then stop. before he screams move. then stop again. ncrease the stopped time gradually. does he understand "no screaming"? what else does he scream for? and work on communication what about a big mack button he can press to say "i want to stop!" so you can acknowledge him ?

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