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Our 'Dad & Me' campaign was designed to find out more about dads caring for disabled children. 

Our eye-opening new survey reveals that dads are not getting the support they need and are left feeling marginalised.

The poll of 500 fathers shows dads are doing all they can to be involved in their child’s life but face hurdles every step of the way.

The report shows that dads:

•         Feel greater financial pressure – the vast majority worry about money and many feel they are seen only as the breadwinner

•         Do not get support from colleagues or bosses – 15% say their workplace does not even know they have a disabled child

•         Are unaware of their right to request flexible working – four in ten do not know this is an option

•          Do not fully understand their child’s condition – a third are not confident in caring for their child

•          Suffer relationship problems – two-thirds say their relationship is suffering

•         Want more support – eight in ten feel alone but only about four in ten get help from support groups or professionals

The survey also asked dads about how the situation could be improved and what could be changed to ensure they have the support they need. Ideas include:

•        Appointments outside working hours

•        Forums for dads

•         Respite care

•         Employer awareness

•         Greater or better integration

We are so grateful to all the dads who took the time to give us their views. We hope the poll will raise awareness of the issues facing carer dads and help incite positive change.

Meet some of the dads who took part in our survey ...

Tom's story

Gareth's story

James' story

Richard's story


To read the full press release and report click on the files:

Press release (2.2 MB) Report briefing notes (2.1 MB)


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